Thursday, April 18, 2019
I grew up in a family that could be termed many things...a broken home, a blended family, a dysfunctional family...whatever you want to call it...
My biological father died when I still a baby. I never met him and can’t honestly say I have any feelings for him aside from curiosity. Roger has been around for as long as I can remember, and he has loved my mother and all her baggage (aka me) for more than 45 years. After a lifetime of hurt, they found each other and built a life together. Their love wasn’t perfect or story book, but their love and devotion to one another was sincere....and that is a lot more than most people will ever have in their lives.
Through the trials and tears, lots and lots of yelling and fighting...there were also a lot of laughs. We were a bunch of broken people who tried the best we could to build a happy and honest life. Important things in his life were as follows...my mother, kids and then the grandkids, and beer You could probably even list beer on there twice.
Today Should be a day that everyone remembers how funny, generous and happy Roger was, almost to a fault.... He never said no to anyone if it could be avoided and I dont think his grandchildren ever heard him say no. he treated me like I was his own. He bought me my first car, was as proud as any other father on my wedding day. helped with all the major and minor events in my life whether it was financially or just to lend his moral support...Roger was my dad in every single way possible.
Growing up in this type of life has taught me a lot. Nothing is perfect. We don’t choose who we love. We can’t always control the outcome of our actions. We can’t always cling to ideals set by society and define ourselves by them, because no matter what everything will always fall short. We take it day by day. But most importantly, Roger taught me that without forgiveness we would never be able to move onward and forward with our lives. Without forgiveness we would never be able be truly happy, and when a group of broken people come together to form a family, we just do the best we can..and forgiveness and love is all we have.
Roger, I love you. I will always love you. You leave behind you a lot of people who will dearly miss you. I’m sorry for all the grief we may have caused each other through the years, but just know, that I would not be who I am today if I had not had you in my life. I know you were not happy every single day, but you were content with your life. I only wish we had more time with you. You will always be my dad, you will always be Grampa to my boys great grampa to Ozker,Jorie and Aiden. Thank you for everything you taught me and for showing my boys and grandchildren unconditional love. Rest easy Roger until we meet again please watch over and protect us.
CALL Minneapolis (612) 200-2777 or duluth (218) 208-0377
Call Us
